Dear Dave: Our daughter is 27, and she’s been married for three years. We’ve been helping her and husband financially quite often the whole time they’ve been married, and we’re afraid this isn’t going to end anytime soon. They both have decent jobs, and we don’t have any idea where their money goes. Lately, they have even tried to guilt us into giving them money by saying they’re afraid if we don’t help them that our granddaughter might have to go without things. We’re not sure how to stop this behavior.
“Dear Dave: Our daughter is 27, and she’s been married for three years. We’ve been helping her and husband financially quite often the whole time they’ve been married, and we’re afraid this isn’t going to end anytime soon.”
Summary: The parents repeatedly assist their adult daughter and son-in-law financially, fear this will continue, and are unsure how to stop the pattern, especially as they worry about their granddaughter’s needs.
Note: The original text contains a mix of repeated phrases and conversational lines. The essential facts are that a married couple in their late 20s are being financially supported by their parents, the couple’s finances are opaque to the parents, and there is guilt-tripping involved regarding ongoing support. No explicit new information was added beyond what was provided.
“We’ve been helping her and husband financially quite often the whole time they’ve been married, and we’re afraid this isn’t going to end anytime soon. They both have decent jobs, and we don’t have any idea where their money goes.”
Авторское резюме: Родителям следует установить границы финансовой поддержки и обсудить with взрослой дочерью и зятем условия помощи, чтобы предотвратить перерастание долга и неоправданных ожиданий, сохраняя ясность и ответственность.